Another Lesson Learned

A few people I know have been a little baffled by the fact that I willingly keep in touch with my ex’s.

Last night, I learned a very valuable lesson – when I kept in touch with Cheating ex after we first broke up, it was because, deep down, I really wanted him to admit that he was wrong to cheat on me and apologise, sincerely for having hurt me. When I finally worked out that any apology he offered was going to be a crock because he simply isn’t capable of being honest with himself, let alone anyone else, I decided that it wasn’t worth keeping in touch with him... The fact that he then continued to try to stay in touch with me in completely irrelevant here – don’t get me started on that.

Last night I realised that I kept in touch with Lying ex for pretty much the same reason …and really, it doesn’t even matter anymore.

The night before last we had been chatting online and he brought something up about when we were together and I told him to simply stop right there – I didn’t want to discuss it, it was over and done with. We ended up having a mini-argument, I then said I had to go (not actually true, I was just wanted to chat to someone else who was more important and didn’t want him distracting me). He signed off with a farewell message that, frankly, I can’t even cut & paste here and was so graphic it actually made me go bright red.

Anyway, last night I jumped online and he was on again. He started talking and he was being rather filthy - not that that offends me per se, its simply that I didn’t want to hear it from him - I told him that clearly, he really needs to get laid right now.

I walked right into that one.

He then started talking about how he couldn’t wait for me to get home… err… and so forth… (c’mon, I don’t really need to spell it out for you, do I ?) I sort of pointed out that it wouldn’t be doing him any good when I did – he wasn’t showing up anywhere on my list of things to do (pardon the pun).

He got a little offended.

We then ended up having an argument – well, it wasn’t so much an argument, I wasn’t arguing, I wasn’t even angry or upset, he was though, I was just bored. I think the nicest thing he said about me (I wasn’t really paying much attention) was that I am ‘straight down the line’ and ‘very harsh’ ... Apparently … I can live with that, although I do find it moderately amusing as other people tell me I am too soft. Go figure.

In the end I had to explain that at the end of the day, I really didn’t care what he thought, I don’t care what he says or what he does, feel etc and that was pretty much that.

I’ve blocked him now.